By Greg Yarmesch
Other motivation occurs when we are motivated by something other than our self. It could be a person, event, or life situation. Other motivation happens when we subconsciously choose to do something to avoid potential pain or attain implied pleasure. In this case, what we are motivated to do becomes the effect, and the avoidance of pain (or attainment of pleasure) becomes the cause. When we feel that we have to do something that we really don’t want to do, we enter a state of inner conflict.
Those who are other motivated unconsciously use their current feelings about their current life circumstances as the “cause”, and their actions become congruent with that current state of being. So if someone is feeling “bad”, then they act congruently with “feeling bad” (complaining, blaming, demanding). The “effect” is that they will continue to think about feeling bad, and perpetuate the cycle. As you can see, this group is responding to the “symptoms” of life as opposed to the source. For example, if a doctor only treated a patient’s symptoms, then the disease would continue to exist. It is only when the source of the disease is remedied that the symptoms disappear.
Feeling(cause)--> Actions(congruent w/feelings)--> Think (result)
Many people work in an environment that they dislike, or work at a job that is not satisfying. They do this because they need to earn income to pay for their living expenses. They have motivation to stay in the unpleasant work environment because the thought of not being able to pay their bills is more painful than enduring the daily grind. The other motivation (or cause) is the thought of potentially losing their current standard of living. The effect is that they stay in the unpleasant work situation and are in a state of inner conflict. This state is often chaotic, stressful and can lead to unfavorable health conditions.
Most people in this category spend a lot of time and money searching for motivation in various external sources. They rely on these external sources for their “shot” of energy, and when they come off their high, they go back to the source again for more motivation. Sounds a bit like an addiction, huh? It is estimated that 95% of people in the world fall into this category. It is no surprise that the self-help industry is a multi-billion dollar-per-year industry.
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